old enough to know better and young enough to not even care.
queer romantic body positive sex positive pro choice liberal feminist asexual. general hate free zone. my ask is always open.
i'm pretty sure the internet is making me exponentially more stupid.
this blog is (occasionally, without warning) very NSFW.
I AM NOT SPOILER FREE. so there's that.
and i've damn well earned this one: i'm one of those obnoxious blaine stans that your mom warned your about. (i didn't realise demanding equal representation made me obnoxious. but i'm often wrong about these things.)
mostly, this is glee, and the objectification of darren criss and chris colfer. other things you will find: doctor who, buffy the vampire slayer, supernatural, star trek, star wars, and (mostly) queer politics.
I have a love affair with hardcovers. They’re elegant and sleek and sometimes when you take off the sleeve there’s a surprise on the cover. But then other times I really love paperbacks because they’re so casual and cool like they won’t take it personal if you fold over a corner. And then there’s ebooks which are like epitome of convenience and I can hold a library in the palm of my hand. I just really love books
januarium replied to your post: “Hi! I’m the anon who asked about G5 and whether it was worth booking tickets last night. It looks absolutely amazing regardless of who’s going, but I don’t really have any friends in the fandom so I’m kinda scared I’d just end up awkward and alone for the 3 days? I really want to go, though.”:
I’m so glad I got your number before G4 so we could so easily meet up! Meeting you and spending so much time with you was so fab. Definitely think the username badge idea is a good one, and I’d love to meet this anon!
Here you go, nonnie! Now there are two of us, and my plus one who totally doesn’t have a vote, who would love to meet you. And I can definitely vouch that getting to spend the weekend with Jan and her friends was super fun.
Do the thing!
You are absolutely more than welcome, hon. It’s been no bother whatsoever. I hope one day you feel brave enough that you can come to me off of anon. ♥
Oh hey, I’m actually pretty stoked by that. I’m genuinely thrilled that I seem approachable. I know how I felt first approaching people who clearly already have connections, but here we are. :)
You’ve made my night, nonny. Thank you!
We all have coping strategies. If you find it easier to talk anonymously, that’s absolutely okay. You’re still talking and that’s brilliant. (I really hope I’m not that scary though. I’m mostly over here making kitten noises and heart eyes at Darren Criss’ face. This is the actualfacts truth about me. Tumblr geriatric, pseudo intellectual, chronic fangirl.)
I hope you’ve had a great day as well. I don’t know about you but here it has been warm but breezy and that’s the best I can hope for.
I think we both need to remember that everyone feels awkward and weird some of the time, that’s for sure. :)
I also know how it feels to be intimidated by fandom. You are doing far better than I already, though - you’re talking to me right now. This is what anon is for, so that we can talk if you’re not confident enough to do so otherwise. You can feel proud of yourself for that today at least. Today you reached out to a virtual stranger and made a connection. That’s got to be a positive, right?
You seem sweet too, nonny. I very much hope you do decide to go for it. The more the merrier. I would love to tell you in person that you’re not any weirder or more awkward than I am!
Oh, hon. That was exactly what happened to me at the last Supernatural one I went to (Weekend At Bobby’s, which was probably two years ago?). It wasn’t miserable, it wasn’t the worst weekend of my life, but it was awkward and lonely. I empathise utterly. Even though the panelists were still engaging, and it was still interesting, I did find myself heading back to my room and ordering room service and dicking around on the internet in the evenings.
I’m not a gregarious personality. I don’t find it easy to talk to people. I’m a fucking riot once I’m out of my shell, but getting there is hard work for me. So although one of my friends pointed out that it should not be difficult to connect with people at conventions, especially not single focus ones, I know what you mean about feeling awkward and lonely. Although literally everyone going has at least one thing in common - we’re all there because we love Glee and want to celebrate that together - it’s not as easy as just striking up a conversation.
I’m actually genuinely debating - internally - the good sense of having my tumblr username somewhere on my person (although my icon is my actual feet, which I figure stand out enough?!) at the next one, so that if people know me on here and want to come say hi and hang out they will be able to. If other people did the same, I would probably be more inclined to talk to them or strike up conversations - I find it much easier to approach people if I feel we already have a connection, and I feel that the same is probably true for most other people as well. Especially in fandom, where a degree of anxiety and social awkwardness are actually the norm.
In short, and to summarise, I will definitely be there next year. I don’t have a huge number of friends in fandom, and by far and away most of them are not in this country and will definitely not be there. So I will be being weird and socially awkward with my kindle and my phone for large proportions of the day. If you do decide to come, you will not be crashing my two person awkward fest by saying hi. I love meeting people. I’m just terrible at it.
Things I will forever be upset about:
1. I don’t know what my Patronus is
2. I don’t know what Amortentia smells like to me
3. I don’t know what I’d see in the Mirror of Erised
4. I don’t know what my Boggart would be
5. I don’t know what type of wand would choose me
People look down on McDonald’s employees but fail to realize that if all these folks left McDonald’s and pursued “better careers” your ass wouldn’t be able to get a McDouble with an Oreo McFlurry at 3am.
You can’t demand a service while simultaneously degrading those who provide it for you.